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I'm a wife, mom, and gestational surrogate. I've been blessed to be able to have 2 beautiful daughters of my own and 2 cute little surro babes for IPs. With the support of my WONDERFUL family and friends, I'm doing it again!! Follow me on my journey...

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Oh, by the way...

Our transfer is scheduled for December 16th! :-)
I followed up with my OB after the whole "elevated liver enzymes" scary stuff that CCRM got me all worked up about. My OB wasn't the slightest bit worried and wrote a very nice clearance letter for me. Thank God!! I worried for nothing!

After that, my IPs and I were in a race against the clock to get our contracts done because CCRM has a "holiday shutdown", which limits the availability they have for transfers. We literally got contracts done at the last possible minute!! Whew! So, CCRM sent us our calendar on Nov. 16th and we've been on the fast track ever since. I started Lupron on the 18th and then began estrace and vivelle patches on the 27th. Thankfully I've had no side effects, as I have before. (Knock on wood!) It almost seems too good to be true! The only thing I don't really like are the vivelle patches and it's only because the damn sticky crap stays on my skin and it also starts peeling and sticking to my clothes! 
My "creepy" (according to Kailey), starting Lupron pic
Super sweet IPs sent me yummy gifts (better than the meds that came at the same time) ;)
Mmmm! Chocolate biscotti 

I'll have my 1st lining check and labs on Dec. 3rd, so I'll check back in after that. Keeping my fingers crossed that everything will continue to go smoothly!

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

"Smooth seas don't make good sailors"

After our trip to Denver, we came back home to await the be honest I wasn't concerned that anything would come back "abnormal" because I've always had good lab results. 
On Tuesday, the nurse from CCRM began emailing me my lab results and all was well until she emailed me my Vitamin D results and told me it was a bit low. They look for the "number" to be over 30 and mine was 18. Bummer to hear, but it wasn't a huge concern because they said I just needed to begin taking a daily OTC vitamin D supplement, along with a once weekly Rx for vitamin D, then in a few weeks they would recheck my levels. 
Later that afternoon, I got another email that said my liver enzymes were "elevated" and that they would not move forward with scheduling a transfer until I discussed the results with my doctor, here in Texas, and got a clearance letter from him stating he's okay with me carrying another pregnancy. I have to say, this was very alarming to me...what the hell does "elevated liver enzymes" mean and what can I do about it?? 
With those questions in mind, what do you think I did? What any other paranoid, semi-informed person would do, of course! I went to trusty ol' Google Search and WebMD. Maybe not the best idea, in hindsight. Google will have you thinking you're on your last leg and should start drafting your will asap. So of course, I worried myself sick about all the possibilities of what elevated liver enzymes could mean for me, but I managed to put aside my hypochondriac moment for a few seconds so that I could call my OB's office and schedule an appointment to go over my results. Thankfully they could get me in relatively quickly. I went to the appointment yesterday and my Dr wasn't even remotely concerned! He said that my levels were only a few points over the "norm" and that could be for any number of reasons; the only time he would become concerned is if the levels were in the triple digits (mine weren't even close). After he told me that, all I wanted to say was "can I get my $40 copay back", I mean, damn. I waited there for an hour and met with him for about 2 minutes just for him to kinda chuckle at the fact that CCRM is so strict. Seriously though, I was relieved that it was nothing, and I'd pay 100 copays to have good news like that, any day. His exact words were "you are the ideal patient to carry a pregnancy"...ah, music to my ears! �� 
So, we're still on track and all I'm waiting on is for his staff to email me the clearance letter. In the meantime, the IPs are getting our contract drafted and we're getting this show on the road!! 
What I've learned is that no matter how much I *think* I know about this process and all of the hurdles that can come your way, I don't know everything and I'm not immune to the occasional curveball either. If everything always went perfectly, you'd never know how to overcome adversity!

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

"People seldom treat me badly on purpose"

The last time I blogged I told you about the couple I matched with in CA...well, let's just say that some things fell through with that and I found myself "back on the market", so to speak. It's funny, this whole world of surrogacy, you never really know what's ahead of you, try as you might. But I'm a firm believer that all things happen for a reason, so no love loss there.

So after the "break up" with the CA couple, a few weeks later one of my surro sisters contacted me saying that she had a couple in mind that she thought I'd like (at this point I was like "yea whatever") but I gave it a shot. I reached out to the IM via Facebook ( isn't social media awesome?!) and we chatted back and forth a few times then decided that we liked each other enough to talk on the phone. Thankfully neither of us deemed each other bat shit crazy and then we did a Skype call. She was soooo sweet and extremely down to earth, easy to talk to. We decided that we both wanted to move forward and got the ball rolling with the clinic (CCRM) and attorneys.

Sunday, Kevin and I flew to Denver (as well as the IPs) so that we could have our "one day work up" done. CCRM is extremely strict and thorough and run you through a shitload of test.  I mean, seriously, I'm surprised I didnt have to give them our 1st born.
We kinda like our 1st born

Anyway, Sunday night we got to meet the IPs in person for the first time and they were just as sweet as they were on the phone!! It's always nerve wracking to meet IPs for the 1st time, it's like a 1st date. Do you tell a joke? Will they get it? Do you bring flowers? Do you just nod and smile and agree with everything? There are just so many random questions that pop into your mind, but it was actually very easy to talk to them and be ourselves, thank god!
So yesterday was our 'one day work up' and I had 6 appointments today (see, thorough!). Appointments started at 10am and the last one was at 2pm. I have to admit, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and it ran quite smoothly.
Here's what the schedule looked like:
Ultrasound + Doppler
Nurse Consultation

Standard or Extended  Workup Labs, Communicable Disease, Genetic Screening Blood Tests
Hysteroscopy, Annual & Regroup
Psychologist Consult

Fun. :\ 

I knew everything would be okay though because it was October 19th ("Baby L's" 4th bday!) AND on the way to the appointment we saw a double rainbow! Both those things have to be good luck, right? ☺

Everything went very smoothly and the dreaded hysteroscopy wasn't bad; the ultrasound was actually worse because the tech kept pushing my stomach in (and I wanted to kick her!). 
No issues with the labs drawn either...(if you've read any of my blogs before, you know those don't usually go well!) 
What a good hubby :)

Oh and they were nice enough to prep the stirrups for me...
Ready for baby baking?? At least they were my favorite color...

Pink paper clothing...look for it on the Spring 2016 runways
I got the preliminary "all clear" from my ultrasound and hysteroscopy and then Kevin and I met with the psychologist. I think we fooled her into thinking we are sane. (Kidding!!...maybe) ��
After that, I took the PAI, Personality Assessment's a 300+ (ridiculous) question assessment. Seriously, if you don't pass this test then you seriously are not the sharpest tool in the shed. 
I was literally laughing out loud at most of the questions, so then I decided to take a pic of some of the ridiculousness because I knew some people wouldn't believe me. 
What?? I'm not even sure how to answer this so that they don't think I'm a lunatic.
Quite possible, but what does that mean about me, exactly?
Now, this question confused me by the way it was worded...maybe I'm a little slow.
Yes, Yes, I do. Problem?
Aren't we all though?
And WHY is this relevant?
All I can say is, the PAI was entertaining, but I was glad to get it over with. 

So after everything was complete, we headed back to the airport with the IPs (they are from Seattle), we said our "see ya laters" and flew back home. 

Now we await the official results from the clinic and then we will finalize contracts, yay!! Hoping for a transfer by December at the latest.

Keep your fingers crossed for us and I'll keep you posted!! 

And happy 4th birthday to my 1st surrobabe "Baby L", who's not such a baby anymore! ❤️

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

What's been happening?

Hey peeps!

I'm still here! I bet you've been wondering "Is Krystal going to do another surrogacy?".....well you probably really haven't had 2 thoughts about it, but in my mind you care ;)

So to answer your question.....YES! I'm crazy, you say? Yea, maybe. But surrogacy is definitely something that is near and dear to my heart and I'm not quite ready to call it quits. Perhaps after I'm done carrying babies I will look into working for an agency or even start my own! I just know that surrogacy is something that I completely believe in and I want to be a part of this community for as long as I can, in one way or another.

Long story short....who am I kidding...I'm a bit long-winded sometimes. So, here's the story of how my 3rd (kinda 4th) journey has begun: (I'll give you random, cute pics along the way to keep you interested! ☺)

Me & Ms. B. Isn't she a cutie?!
I was contacted by a dear surro friend regarding a local Dallas couple that was looking for a surrogate. They were not with an agency though and did not want to use one either. I talked with Kevin about it and we decided that we felt comfortable enough to move forward with them independently (without an agency). (Don't freak out, there are lots of arrangements done without using an agency) An agency is essentially a "middle man" to help with matching and assists with the not so easy task of talking finances, etc. Anyway, back on topic....we talked with the couple over the phone, really clicked and decided to go to dinner. We met at a fun little place, but we forgot to make reservations and the wait was over an hour! So we decided to walk and talk and we found a pizza was soooo good! After we ate, we talked for a while and then the couple wanted to introduce us to a sushi place they liked (I've never had sushi, nor desired it, but I was open to trying something new). It was actually really good! We had a vegetarian roll and fried eggplant.
We weren't ready for the night to be over so we found a dive bar and had a couple of drinks and dessert; we stayed out until 2am! So fun!
IM and I began texting a few times and then went out to lunch a few weeks later. Unfortunately, things went awry. IM's family was a little less than pleased when they found out about them using a surrogate and she called to let me know that they were going to need some time to figure things out. I was sad, but not completely caught off-guard, as there were little hints here and there. It was a cultural thing, I believe. They are both great people and I wish them all the best!

Me & the fam at the Color Vibe 5k run. Lots of fun!
I let my agency know that the match fell through and they began sending me profiles. One in particular stood out, mainly because it was so well written and down to earth and also because of the peculiar line of work for the IM. It was intriguing. I really wasn't interested in carrying for a couple that wasn't local (they are in CA), but after I talked to them I couldn't say no. They were so adorable on the phone and I was really glad they could appreciate my sense of humor ☺
We all agreed that it was a match and have decided to move forward!
Mr. L talking to my daughter for her b-day
We were matched on November 20th and things have been moving quite slowly until about a week ago. I FINALLY got a draft copy of a contract and I'm pretty sure my IPs found their donor as well. I went over the contract with the attorney; there were a few changes to be made and now I'm just awaiting the final contract to sign. I think there may be a hold up because I no longer have disability coverage (my company cancelled it on 2/1/15), so that may have thrown a wrench into my IP's plans. Hopefully it's not a dealbreaker, but we shall see.

Well, that's that! I'll update when I have more "exciting" news! And I'll leave you with a couple more pics of the cutest little surro babes you've ever seen! ☺
She's starting to walk!
Cutest little elf ever!


Thursday, May 22, 2014

She's here!!!!!

Well Miss B decided to make her debut on Saturday, May 10th, about 30 minutes shy of Mother's Day! (And she proved me wrong by arriving 3 days before her due date)

Here are her stats:
Born May 10 (her grandparent's anniversary!) 
20 in

She is absolutely adorable and the parents are so in love with her. ♥

So here's the birth story: (this will be long...I want to remember all of this in the future ☺ )

At my Dr. appt on Friday the 9th I was still dilated 2-3cm, which was a little disappointing. I was hoping all the contractions I had been having were making some kind of progress. My BP was also elevated so the Dr decided to send me to L&D to be monitored. They kept me for about an hour, ran labs,  everything came back normal and BP went back down, so they sent me home. 

The next day, Saturday, May 10th around 10:30am I went to the nail spa with my mom, grandma and oldest daughter. Very relaxing ☺ We went to lunch afterward and then I got back home around 2:30pm. Kevin, the girls and I started watching a movie and I was having the usual contractions, nothing major. Then I felt a 'pop' in my abdominal area and had a really long, semi-painful contraction. It went away and I kept watching the movie until about 10 minutes later (3:30p) when I felt a trickle "down there". I hopped up, ran to the bathroom and wasn't quite sure if my water broke or if I peed on myself lol. I stood there for a few minutes and the mystery liquid kept coming out so I was pretty sure my water had broken :-) 
I told Kevin it was time, he turned the movie off and got the girls packed up and into the car. Then I called my IPs (you could hear the excitement in my IM's voice!) and my mom (the girls were going to her house). We dropped the girls off and then we were off to the hospital. At that point I started having regular contractions (about every 3 mins)...I noticed Kevin was on the phone and I didn't know who he was talking to, but I soon figured it out....he was talking to my step dad AKA our escort to the hospital. I looked up and saw my dad's car in front of us with his emergency lights flashing "clearing the way" through traffic for us. Omg....let's not talk about how quickly we got to the hospital. Thankfully I was too distracted by all the contractions to look at the speedometer...we made it there safely and without any tickets so I guess that's what matters :)
I got checked in to L&D triage (4:45p) and they confirmed that my water broke so they moved me to a room. I was having contractions every 2 mins now, but not too painful. Nurse checked my cervix and I was dilated to 4cm. Got my IV put in and then my IPs arrived.
I started getting nauseous and then I puked...nice!

The contractions were getting stronger and then, thankfully, the anesthesiologist arrived. They only allow 1 person in the room while getting the epidural so I asked Kevin to stay...why did I do that? If you recall, last time Kevin passed out when I got the epidural. Smh. I figured it was a one time thing. Not so much. The Dr was merely telling me about the procedure and Kevin started getting lightheaded. We sent him out and asked IM to come in lol.
Guess he had to have a snack break after that ordeal.
So IM was there with me while I got the epidural. I'm glad she was too. She was very calming. 
That was around 6:30pm and after the epi was done, I was a happy camper ☺
The nurse told us that our Dr wasn't the Dr on call that weekend so his associate would be the one to deliver. Bummer. Then she came back and said our Dr had put a note on my chart specifically asking to be called if I came in because he wanted to be the one to deliver. How cool is that?! Dr. B was great to us throughout the entire pregnancy and it was really nice to know that he cared enough to come in on his day off. 
My mom, the girls and my grandma arrived and kept me company for a while too.
My entourage ☺
My girls were so supportive ♥
Around 8p I was still having contractions every 2 mins, but was only dilated to 5cm, so they started Pitocin to help make the contractions stronger and dilate me more. Thank goodness for the epi! ☺
My friend Elice arrived around 8:30-9; she was the designated photographer. She did fix my hair, but we didn't set off any smoke alarms this time! 
It was really calm in the room, we were just watching tv and waiting for Miss B to make some progress.
The nurse was writing her birthday time/weight guess on our board. (She won for time, I won for weight) ☺
The Dr came in at 11pm, checked me and said I was at 10 and ready to push. Everyone got ready, M&P were on each side of me and I started pushing! 30 mins later Miss B arrived! 
It was one of the most calm births ever! They placed her on my tummy to clean her off and she let out that beautiful cry we all wanted to hear.

IM was crying and IF was smiling from ear to ear! IF got to cut the cord and IM did skin-to-skin with Miss B. It was so amazing! No words can truly describe those 1st moments.
The new parents got to help with giving B her 1st bath and putting on her diaper (which was upside down at first lol!) 
She passed all of her tests and was given her 1st set of vaccines as well. 
Bath time
I immediately started pumping for her, but her appetite was bigger than I could produce, right off, so they supplemented with formula. 
IM got to celebrate her 1st Mother's Day the next day (so cool!) and we all went home on Monday. 
The best part of it all? When IPs said that B will call me Aunt Krystal! I totally started crying. What a privilege! I feel so incredibly blessed to have been able to help another couple become parents and love the fact that they consider me part of their family. I definitely don't take it for granted. There are so many other surrogates that don't even get pictures afterward. I'm a lucky woman! 
The girls instantly loved her!♥

As for me, I'm feeling good. I have been pumping for Miss B, which is tiring, but surprisingly rewarding. It feels like an accomplishment after each time I pump and I look in the freezer to see all the milk I've produced. ☺
I started light exercise yesterday (just walking the dogs) and will slowly work my way back up to Zumba and soccer. 

So, that's it! Miss B is here, healthy and happy! She's very alert and a sweet, calm baby. Couldn't ask for anything better! 
I'm a happy surro and I'm sure my family is happy to have their "normal" mom/wife back.

Leaving the hospital

3.5 days old
11 days old
Toodles for now! 

PS. Will I do it again? 
It's not out of the question..... ;)

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

39 weeks!!!

Week 39 baby fetus size watermelon
Fetus Size
Baby is about the size of a watermelon during week 39.

LENGTH: 20.31 in
WEIGHT: 7.78 lb
Let's just start off with this little statistic...Most babies, about 95%, don't arrive on their due date. Of the 95%, 25% come early and 70% come late.
Umm...HELL NO! No,! Late is not an option. I've been having (according to the nurse at the Dr's office) Braxton Hick's contractions since Monday. They are not painful, but they sure as hell aren't pleasant either. And it's not fun to have these false alarms. I feel like the boy who cried wolf; no one's gonna believe when I actually do go into labor b/c I think I'm going into labor about every 20 minutes :\ Whatevs.
Miss B has 6 days until her "projected due date".... please cooperate, Miss B!
My appointment last Friday went well. Baby's heart rate was good, my belly is still huge (Dr doesn't even tell me what it measures at this point) prob for the best...and I'm dilated 2-3cm! Dr. was very surprised at how much I was dilated and didn't seem to think I'll make it to our due date. I'm skeptical. I think I'll make it and even go past the damn date! Oh well, I'm going to do my best to cherish these last few days of pregnancy, no matter how uncomfortable I might be. *Try*
Next appointment is on Friday the 9th (if we make it). I'll let cha know how it goes.

Love from Miss B's #1 fan...and Zeus decided to join in for once :)


Wednesday, April 30, 2014

38 weeks!

pregnancy calendarI'm just gonna copy straight from Alpha Mom because, she hit the nail on the head for this week!

  • Is officially a little chunkin, at well over six pounds and 19 1/2 inches long.
  • Is also officially considered “full term.” In other words, she is STRAIGHT UP FREELOADING from here on out.
  • Is practicing making fists and fetal breathing in anticipation of life outside the womb.
  • Have had enough of this magical special time, thank you very much.
  • Backaches, joint aches, heartburn, indigestion, constipation, Braxton-Hicks contractions, painful kicks, bladder pressure, stretch marks, itchy skin, swollen ankles, fatigue, dry mouth, mood swings, did I miss anything else in this cavalcade of late-pregnancy hilarity?
Thankfully at the last Dr's appt he graciously agreed to place me on 1/2 days at work. Yesterday was my 1st official half-day, but it still seemed too long, lol.
Speaking of my Dr appt, it was another quick one. He checked her heart rate (good), checked my belly size (measuring a week ahead) and that was it. As for my headaches and swelling...well...that's just part of pregnancy, apparently. My BP was just fine, so that's good news.

We go back to the Dr this Friday, May 2nd and he will check my cervix for dilation this time. Joy.
As much as I dread being checked, I'm hoping that I'm at least dilated some...I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel! ☺

Until next time, TTYL!
Miss B's #1 fan!